From my point of view anyway...

As a woman, I have noticed that men don't always do the "little things" that mean so much to us.  I like to sit and remember what it was like before I got married when Heath was still trying to win me over. (Not that he doesn't do them now, they were just more often back then).  One of the things he did often was just a word.  

"Forever."

That's it.  Forever.  He would take my hands in his and he would look in my eyes and just simply say "Forever." That was enough to melt me like soft butter!  He walks beside me with his hand in my back pocket, he plays with my hair while we are watching TV, he kisses my forehead when I'm not paying attention, he will chanse me around the house and tickle me, he will wrestle with me, and he will take a walk with me at 10 o'clock at night just because the kids aren't home and we can. 

When we first moved up here, I ran into some friends while I was coming home from taking Heath a pack of cigs at work.  They invited me to go to the bar with them that night, and I called Heath to inform him I was going out with some friends.  There would be myself, 3 other girls and one of the girls' husband.  He immediately got worried. 

"Baby, but what if another guy hits on you?!  What if someone takes you away from me?"

I comforted him and told him that god himself couldn't take me away from him.  Although it did feel good to know that he was jealous, but not too jealous.  We ended up going to a local dive, then going to the place where he was working.  We each had one drink, then we came home.  He got home shortly after I did and he wrapped both his arms around me. 

"I'm so glad you're home now, I missed the shit outta you!!!  Did anyone hit on you?  Flirt with you? Look at you wrong?" 

He has a way of looking at me when he is worried, and it makes me want to grab each side of his face and just hug the stuffing out of him.  I feel that I need to protect him from the world as I would one of my children.  It's that kind of love I feel for him, the kind of love you read about in story books, the kind of love that you dream about as a little girl.  When he hurts, I hurt, when he cries, I cry.  You know, if he jumps, I jump sorta thing. 

That love carried over into the bedroom (or living room, wherever we happen to be at the time) in our relationship.  We "make love", we don't "fuck" (well, sometimes we just "fuck", but that's another entry...) anymore.  Last night after our walk, we didn't even make it all the way in the front door and he was ripping my clothes off.  The way he touches me, kisses me, feels against me, it's beautiful!  I finally understand why people say that you "see fireworks" when you have the right guy.  Every time is like the 4th of July at my house, and that is one thing that has never changed.  The love we feel for each other has always been there.  One or the other has fallen out of love with the other one, but it's never been at the same time and we have always fallen right back into it again.  It's like meeting someone new every so often.  It's like in the movie "Runaway Bride" when at the end, Julia Roberts says to Richard Gere,

"I guarantee that at some point one of us or even both of us are going to want out of this..."

It's like that, but in the end, you never want to wake up without feeling that warmth beside of you, and you never want to know that he's gone.  I may get mad at him, and I may yell and scream and threaten to leave, but I really don't think I ever could.  I love him too much, and we have both put way too much time and effort into this now to throw it all away because of a speed bump. 

Love is a wonderful thing, and I wish that everyone could experience this kind of love at least once in their lives. 

"It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all..."

When my husband and I were telling our male friends that we were getting married, the main thing they talked about and joked with us about was the amount of sex we had.  They always told us that married couples had less sex than unmarried couples.  I let it roll off my back because, well, I'm only 27, I'm in my prime right ?  I am as into sex as the next person...

probably even a little more... hehe

So, we got married and I'll be damned, the sex didn't change!  We still have the same amount of sex that we have always had.  Now, I know this doesn't apply to all married couples.  Some people do have a decline in thier sex lives, so I decided to share our secrets to a healthy sex life.  (We do have a very healthy sex life, if nothing else... heh)

My Rules to Maintaining a healthy sex life after marriage...

Step 1: Keep it interesting!
Nobody likes to have sex in the same position over and over and over.  It gets repititious.  You nave to keep the spark going and well, the way to do that is to mix it up a bit.  Instead of having missionary sex, do it doggy style, or if the man is always on top, roll over (and have her face away from you so you have a great view of her ass bouncing up and down -.o).  There are also other ways to keep it hot, but those will be discussed further down.

Step 2: Talk Dirty to me!
Let's face it ladies, men LOVE to hear how big their dick is and that they are the best lay you've ever had.  This is one situation in a relationship where you should not be brutally honest.  By telling your husband that he isn't the best you've had, you're totally hurting his ego.  Men's egos are very very important in the bedroom.  The more you make them feel like they are the ultimate sex god, the better it will be.  Trust me on this.  A few things you can say, in addition to Complimenting your Lover  by SerenaDante, you can say some more "nasty" things like, "oh your dick is so big", or (My hubby's personal fave) "I wanna make you cum".  Some guys even like to be told to "kiss you like their lover and fuck you like their whore". 
Now, guys.  This is a whole other ballgame for you.  Women on the other hand like to feel pretty and sexy.  And we also like to know that we are still doing it for you after all these years.  Tell your wife that she is beautiful and that she is sexy.  Tell her that she is the most beautiful woman you have ever met, and you can't stop staring at her.  Tell her that you want a strip tease to see her body revealed to you slowly.  She will be turned on by it... I can almost promise.  Rub your hands all over her body and do it with passion.  Kiss her like you're never going to see her again.  It's all about romance with the women... we "make love", most of the time.

Step 3: Don't stop flirting with each other!
Just because you're married doesn't mean you don't like the attention you got before you were married right ?  I know I do.  Whistle at your lover from across the room.  While your wife is cooking dinner, smack her ass.  Tell her she looks "hot" when she gets out of the shower or when she gets ready to go somewhere.  Act jealous.  Not like crazy, psycho jeaous, but just enough to know that she is still beautiful enough to attract men other than you and it worries you a bit.  Girls, tell your man he has a nice ass, rub him in his "areas".  Those would be his neck, his chest, his upper arms, his lower back, and his lower stomach.  Tell him specific things that you like about him.  For example:  Tell him that you like the way his arms look in a specific tee shirt he wears.  Tell him that he looks hot in his work clothes.  And also, be jealous.  Again, not crazy, psycho jealous, just enough to let him know what we told him to let you know earlier :).

Step 4: Don't let yourself go.
You guys got married because you were in love right ?  But before you were in love, you started dating because you were attracted to each other.  We can all say that looks aren't important, but in the end, you were first attracted to your spouse because of the way they look.  There was something about them that caught your eye.  You want to keep that "something" alive.  For me, my husband was attracted to my eyes.  I try very hard to keep them made up and pretty for him.  Ladies, if your husband likes for you to wear make up, do it!  Men, if your ladies like for you to show off your arms, do it!  It won't hurt you to put in a little extra effort in to make your spouse notice you.

Step 5: Don't pressure each other.
I've heard time and time again... all he/she wants to do is tell me how much we never have sex anymore!  Don't make yourself seem desperate.  Desperation wasn't attractive before you got married, what makes you think it will be after you get married.  It won't.  Don't do it.

There ya have it.  My steps to a healthy sex life once you are married.  If you need ideas for positions, try this website.  It has animated sex positions.  (I did say animated)  From A to Z.  Well, I guess that's it!

Good Luck and Happy Humping!!!!